After expending so much time, energy, and focus on something you care about, it can be devastating when it just doesn’t click. What you do next is very important.
You can’t afford to put the fate of your work into someone else’s hands. Fight for it and be tenacious. No matter how great the trainer, every boxer has to step into the ring alone.
Stretching always requires that you risk failure, which means you will probably feel a little over your head from time to time. Don’t mistake a little nervousness for weakness. Use it as fuel.
Don’t believe the lie that success is inevitable. On the inside, where all of the risk is being taken, it often feels like things could fall apart at any moment, and that’s precisely how it should be.
Don’t rob yourself, and stop trying to will yourself to do better. Instead, recognize that small actions of focus and discipline today is the best way to love your future self. Make investments today so that you can reap a return tomorrow.
It’s often not the circumstances we learn from, but our response to them. Identifying limiting narratives or patterns of self-destruction can help us spot them when they crop up, then nip them before they cause us to implode or obsess needlessly over critique.